Life is a Game, Let's Have Fun

In ev`ry job that must be done, there is an element of fun.
You find the fun and snap the job`s a game.
And ev`ry task you undertake becomes a pice of cake.
A lark! A spree! It`s verry clear to see.

That a spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down.
Medicine go dow-wown, medicine go down.
Just a spoonful of sugar makes the medicine go down
in the most delightful way. A Spoonful of Sugar lyrics from Mary Poppins

In an email exchange yesterday, a friend wrote:

"Don't you sometimes wonder if it would just be easier to go back to your 'real' family, like your friend from the fatal accident last week. I mean, really, who needs all this. If this is supposed to be a 'game', I don't see much fun being had by many of the players."

(The accident my friend is referring to here is discussed in Love is Forever).

Later I thought of a friend I once went out with. In the evening while I was watching a programme on television, I noticed one of the actors looked like the same friend. Last night I had a dream where I bumped into this friend. I told him I'd been thinking about him and have missed him. He said he'd also missed me. We arranged to meet up later. He asked me what I'd been up to. I said I'd been seeing someone but it wasn't working out. Then I woke up.

The dream had been very vivid and real. I wondered what it meant. I thought about my feelings for this friend. I liked being with him and had a lot of fun with him. There was a time when I even had a crush on him, but it didn't feel right being with him. Could it be we're about to rekindle our relationship? Even though on paper he seemed compatible, I still couldn't imagine myself being with him. So, if the dream isn't about rekindling our relationship then there must be another message. I had the thought that he was there to remind me to be true to myself.

This morning as I was waiting at the bus station, a bus drove by with an advert for an online casino. It's slogan was "let's play." Aha, that's what my friend in the dream represents, playfulness. In fact it was his playful attitude that attracted me to him. I always enjoyed having a good banter with him. He had been in my dream to remind me that I was getting too serious. I must remember that life's a game and my nature is playfulness.

I believe all aspects of life is a game including falling in love and being in relationships, having a career, following a "path" etc. The moment I put out the intention, someone appears to play that game. The problem is when I forget it's a game and start taking it all too seriously, it stops being fun. Ironically, there's a point in people's relationships when they start "being serious" and start thinking of long term commitments, marriage, mortgage etc. Instead of enjoying each other like you used to, everything becomes oh so serious. Those who end up having kids have the opportunity to play because children are good reminders that life is meant to be fun until the kids grow up to be serious just like their parents.

I have nothing against people getting married and having kids, I just believe in making all aspects of life fun.

I reckon I've been getting way too serious about love and relationships. It's time for me to be my playful self and enjoy love in whatever way it unfolds.

Thank you friends for your timely reminders.

I am playfulness; I am fun.

Enocia

Related articles: Play Mates are Everywhere; The REAL Secret; Playfulness; It's Only a Love Game

Image: Callie from Flickr

See also YouTube: A Spoonful of Sugar